Alternative therapies…
The first who feels this apathy is mom. She has already started consulting therapists to better understand her kid, to make the best of her new life and family. It looks like the kid has emotional negativity, not really looking at the bright side of life, but it seems nothing really serious. Nevertheless, family members need to work together on some sort of cognitive therapy. After all, they want to help him develop self control and shape his future, not just focus only on immediate effects.
But none of the family members takes her seriously. They would rather put the blame on separation or the instable status of mom’s mind. No wonder… So she struggles to find her own answers, diving deeper into books and talking to people with similar experience or try alternative remedies. She feels trapped in the middle. She has been shaken up during the divorce already, but now new challenges occur…
Unfortunately challenges turn into bigger problems and frustrations due to vainness solutions. Soon mom realizes her kid has developed obsessions, rejects her, screams and shouts at her, blaming her of every negative thought in his mind. She has been the active person who tried to teach her kid overcome his fears, be more independent and confident. But the kid doesn’t want that, he prefers to embrace his anxieties and avoid everything outside his comfort zone.
The biggest problem is that most of his negative thoughts are just his imagination, no connection to reality.
No matter how much one tries to dismantle his unrealistic ideas, he keeps making them up, building never-ending negative scenarios.
No matter how much one tries to validate him to increase his self-esteem, it crashes down in the sand.
Now matter how much one tries to apply relaxing techniques, the kid rejects them all.
Desperate mom seeks help to other specialists, listens to news theories, with no luck in the kids behaviour.
The most dramatic scenes are the ones around mom, in her home and less dramatic with dad or grandparents. Missing his grandma seems to be the leitmotiv of kid’s life.
Could this be a solution?
Therapist says it’s separation anxiety and recommends less presence of grandma around the kid and more time with his dad.
With hard pain and sorrow, mom agrees and starts looking to her life again, praying and hoping that being with his father will be healthier for her kid.
The biggest sorrow of a mom is to let her kid go…