Attention strikes again
Why do we need the validation of the others, their constant attention, why do we constantly need to be liked by others? Is it just a basic need of love or is it a more cerebral wish for approval and validation? Where do these needs come from?
I think they all come back at some point in life, all the fears from childhood years are waiting for the right scenario to show up again in our brains. And if we don’t know them, if we are not aware of the root cause, we are taken by surprise and overwhelmed by them.
If we were not confident enough in our childhood, we would suffer from it the whole life.
In case we didn’t get enough attention or love as kids, we would crave for them our entire life.
If we didn’t receive the validation from our parents, we would look for it as adults again and again.
However, the hardest part is to be able to realize all these causes, to be aware when they show up trying to take over our life, our relationships as adults.
I think these are the basic first but decisive steps towards healing, accepting or confronting our deepest fears.
Along this long process, we should remember to focus on inner validation and take care of ourselves.